Epiphany: Mission Statement

In my quest to turn things around I have been scouring the internet for all things positive, amazing, life affirming, or simple. I’d love to put together a great resource for people that is condensed, concise, and all in one place, something like a handbook for living. And last night I stumbled across a great blog belonging to a man I would want to be if I were a man and didn’t want to be me. I mean honestly, just the name of his blog, Live your Legend, is priceless and instantly made me want to read further. His post, and subsequent referral to another blog, was inspiring, starting a blog that matters was a concept I hadn’t put into words but was feeling in my soul. It clicked, it all fell into place. The point in all of this is that I realized I wanted to do more than blog, I want to make a difference. Not just in my own life and the dear sweet men who are forced to share it with me, but in the lives of anyone seeking a better way to live. I want to reach and impact people who feel lost, unfulfilled, damaged, or depressed. I want to help create moments of beauty and laughter for people I will never meet as well as those who already love me.

I’ve been a caretaker and a nurturer my entire life. I may have been the youngest of three children, but by the time I was born the only role not taken was responsible adult, so I snatched up quickly and took off running. I’ve been the  glue, the icebreaker, the mediator, the go between, the inspiration, the shoulder, the confidant, the champion, the cheerleader,  and the tissue of many a soul and while I can’t say it has always been fun or I walked away clean, I can say I felt good helping others.

Most of my life I have spent working with animals. Again a caretaker role. I made their lives better by teaching their people how to communicate with them, what to expect from them, and how to help them make better choices. I loved the feeling of turning things around for folks, of making homes happier for pets. I still get goose bumps when I think about it. So what if I could do that for people all over? What if I could do that for friends, family, and strangers? I don’t profess to be an expert at life, or a guru of everything, but what if I could take the wisdom of others, the expertise of the world and narrow it all down into a Handbook for the Living. A quick reference guide to how to live simpler, better, happier lives doing and being what we love. That would certainly be a blog that matters, that would undoubtedly be something that people would bring into their lives. I can’t be the only one who feels there is a better way out there. As a matter of fact the blogs I’ve been stumbling on prove I’m not.

In the past 5 years I have been through just about every tragedy or life changing event a person can withstand. I’ve had divorce, job loss, career change, marriage, suicide, births, foreclosure, more death, moving cross-country, and losing family members to stupid circumstances, and yet I am still here, relatively intact, mostly optimistic, and certainly improving. I still laugh everyday. I still have hope. My good friend once told me if I didn’t have bad luck I’d have no luck at all; and he isn’t wrong. So why am I still standing? Why am I still filled with hope and glittery things? Why is my response to all this different from what someone else’s would have been? Why do I still believe that I can have good luck if I only step up and start making it happen?

So that is what I am going to do; this journey I set out on, this path or reconstruction or life into something better will be the ground work for a Handbook for Living. I want this blog to matter. I want to reach people it could matter too. I want to make my own luck. I want to change things.

If you like this message please share it. If you know someone who needs reconstruction, they are not alone. Let’s take action! Let’s start a movement. There is strength in numbers. There is strength in believing.

Inspiration from the Ether: Live Your Legend, Start a Blog that Matters

In the Begining…

I think it is best to start this journey by identifying what it is I think I am doing right. All too often people have a tendency to focus on their short comings or what they do wrong and that is NOT what this journey is about. So to avoid that confusion I want to start by packing my preverbal suitcase with the items I cherish and love about myself and my life. No matter who you are or how you came to be here there is always something positive you can say about yourself. Our culture has taught us that having a good self esteem is essential to survival, but it has also strangely and ironically judged us for doing just that; those who think highly of themselves or their specific talents are often described as boastful, egocentric, self-involved, arrogant, ego-maniacal etc. As a matter of fact, my husband whom I adore is one of the most egotistical people I know. And while I fully understand that sounds negative, I couldn’t think of a higher compliment to give him. On his most recent cover letter for a promotion he said he deserved the job because he “woke up in the morning and pissed excellence”, my god! If the man pisses excellence just imagine what else he could do and what his body doesn’t consider a waste product! My husband is a wonderful man who is giving and thoughtful, caring and fun, but the man also believes he is a gift to the world and he has no problem listing the ways he is awesome, if we only had the time to listen to that many. I secretly wish we were all like that. How much happier would you be if you could eagerly exclaim to anyone who’d listen all the ways in which you rock this casba? How much better would you feel about yourself if instead of focusing on all the terrible things you did or said today and all the things you didn’t get done, if instead you could sit back and tell someone about all the wonderful things you did or moments you shared and how amazing they made you feel. No one ever does that. So here is my way of starting that tradition, and my goal for this week. First I will list the things I have in life that should make you all supremely jealous of me and you will read them and be glad that I have them instead of resentful that you may not or angry that I dared boast about them so blatantly. Then I will try to post each day something new I identified that brought joy to my life, that is solely mine to cherish and I should not forget. Call it gratitude, call it bragging, call it recognition of beauty, call it what you like. I will call it me and mine.

  • I am well hydrated (yes it is small, but I promise you it is a big deal). Don’t believe me? Start drinking more water
  • I love my husband and am lucky enough to have found a true soul mate, no really, I swear
  • I have two amazing boys that I was lucky enough to grow in my belly and show the world too
  • I care about my friends, I may not have time to be there for every breaking news flash, but I care and love them fiercely and would protect them from harm. I have never hurt one intentionally or maliciously. I have never stabbed one in the back
  • I am good with dogs. I have an affinity with them that I am grateful for and proud to call instinctual
  • I workout regularly, about 4 times a week, but more if I can eek the time out. I freakishly love that I can make my body change at will with just a little work
  • I put my kids first, but I am learning sometimes they need to be second
  • I read. I can’t stress how important I think reading is on so many levels. I’ll say more about that later
  • I sing. I sing all the time, to the radio, to my children, I make up songs. My favorite is “There’s a penis in your pants…” you sing it to the tune of “if you’re happy and you know it” my boys think it is so silly
  • I get it all done. I am the queen of multi-tasking and the master of nothing. I put this down as a brag, but to be honest it will be one of the things I work on in the future. I am never really present and my ability to get t all done makes me anxious, quick to anger and resentful.
  • Maybe the most important thing, for this journey anyway, is that I am capable of change. I welcome new experiences that will help me grow and achieve a better me. I look for peace and I will never give up. I will never let circumstance or others stop me from being happy. I will never say it is out of my control. I think that is brag worthy.

What do you like about you? What have you said or done that makes you proud? What would brag about if only he world would let you? Why do your friends love you? Your children? your mate? I bet you can make a pretty good list, and that is the place to start.